EVERY Family Is Different…So CELEBRATE That Difference!Nicole Sparks
EVERY Family Is Different…So CELEBRATE That Difference! By now, it should come as no surprise that we’re huge connoisseurs of all things pop culture… SO much so, we even did a post on famous movie and television locations you can actually visit and even stage your event. And, we may do even more!
So as we dip into our well of cultural touchstones, we visit our favorite six “Friends” for an interesting perspective on families, even the most die-hard fans may not have noticed.
When discussing the legacy of their show, “Friends” co-creators, Marta Kauffman and David Crane, talked about their purposeful decision to feature the emerging “non-traditional” family. And, this most assuredly can be seen in the WAY their families evolved over those 10 seasons!
“It’s about friendship because when you’re single and in the city, your friends ARE your family… This idea wasn’t the ONLY way the show challenged domestic norms. Over the course of 10 seasons, its storylines covered same-sex marriage, infertility, adoption, surrogacy and single parenthood.”
These groundbreaking creators realized – and wanted to CELEBRATE – that not everyone follows the typical route to parenthood and creating a family. And if it’s good enough for “Friends” it’s most certainly good enough for us!
Long gone are the days when families looked like the Cleavers, Huxtables or even the Connors. And this “new” American family deserves the same fanfare and hoopla when THEY add a new member!
In many families, this means bringing a second – or THIRD – generation into their home. As parents and grandparents age, more and more frequently family members make the decision for these treasured loved ones to “age in place”… a growing trend. So these families definitely break the mold for what a “regular” family SHOULD look like!
Other families grow through either adoption or foster care. Depending upon the age of the child(ren) or the circumstances, this can be a SUDDEN addition to their unit! In the case of foster care, these children have already endured some sort of trauma and may be unsure of where and how they fit into this new home. The same holds true for some adoptions, as well. But, these families willingly – and EAGERLY – welcome these new pieces to the heart of their home.
Of course, the first births on “Friends” offered two VERY different scenarios. First, gay couple Carol and Susan commit to raise the son conceived when Ross and Carol were still married. And, single dad Ross defines his role in this “non-traditional” structure. Then, we have Phoebe acting as a surrogate for her brother Frank and his new wife Alice. Or, as she says in her inimitable “Phoebe” way: “Totally their bun, I’m just the oven!”
Finally, in the last series episode, we have Monica and Chandler finally getting their family – albeit a bit larger than they anticipated – through adoption. And in EVERY SINGLE instance, these additions were celebrated with the same laughter and tears that rightfully should accompany ANY new family member… regardless of HOW they got here!
No matter what YOUR family may look like, we can’t imagine a better welcome to kinship than with some proper fanfare and razzmatazz! It can break the ice for new children, and let older or extended family members know they truly ARE wanted in the home. And, even though you may not have the opportunity to participate in all the “traditional” pre-baby activities, you should NOT be cheated out of a full-scale celebration whenever anyone joins your family! We have tons of experience with “blended” and “new” families, so just drop us a line or give us a call for more ideas on how we can help you celebrate the “specialness” that is YOUR family!